“There are two ways to be fooled. One is to believe what isn’t true. The other is to refuse to believe what is true.”
I grew up in a family of professionals and entrepreneurs. I’m not just talking about parents and siblings. Uncles and cousins, too, on both sides of the family. In fact, in a scene straight out of My Cousin Vinny, when being questioned by a judge for jury duty, I had the courtroom in stitches when I explained that they most likely didn’t want to select me as a juror because I’m an attorney, my dad’s an attorney, my brother is an attorney, my cousins are attorneys, my uncles are attorneys, my wife is an attorney, her dad is an attorney and her brothers are attorneys, too!
Literally the only career path I knew was being a lawyer, a doctor, or an entrepreneur. So down that path I headed, certainly equipped with the analytical skills and ability to network that generally led to “success” in these fields.
However, for me, a funny thing happened on this path to “success”. The further along I got, the more I felt like a fish out of water, a square peg trying to fit into a round hole. Financial and material success weren’t fulfilling. Yet in the world I was caught up in, I felt a constant pressure to want more and be more committed to achieving this kind of success. For me, there was no purpose or meaning in what I was doing. And the exhaustion of trying to be someone I wasn’t started to take a toll. Life felt difficult, moments of enjoyment and pleasure became much less frequent and more fleeting, and my natural empathy and compassion waned.
In what turned out to be one of the most important turning points in my life, I took a risk and enrolled in a year-long course to become an executive coach. The application asked about my “spiritual” life. I actually had to look up the word to figure out what they were asking about, as I associated “spiritual” with religion. Over time, I discovered that “spiritual” had a much different and broader meaning and was directly related to the “success” I had been seeking: a deeper connection to myself and my truth.
By becoming a coach, I started down a path from intellectually driven professional and entrepreneur to gaining a new wisdom they don’t teach in college, law school or an MBA program. I developed a new perspective that allowed me to unearth the source of my conflict and build a career and life in alignment with my core needs that empowered me to live my truth.
I am now here to support others who, despite having achieved “success”, inside feel “something is missing”. To help you take the risk to uncover your deeper truth which will allow you to live your life in greater alignment. This could lead to a minor tweak or a major change; in either case, this new framework becomes the foundation of reimagined success.
The discovery of what I call your “simple truth” will allow you to live a more authentic and fulfilling life, one in which you are self-authoring rather than socially defined. The simplicity of this “truth” brings an undeniable sense of energy and freedom, improves your well-being, and enhances your potential.
Prior to coaching I spent 30+ years in law, financial markets, and managing businesses. I trained at and received coaching certification from New Ventures West, an intensive and respected coaching program. I earned an MBA from Northwestern University Kellogg School of Management, a JD from University of Illinois College of Law, and a BS in Finance from University of Illinois.
I live in Chicago in the heart of the city, am married to an attorney, and we have an adult daughter. I am an avid cyclist and a lifelong Cubs fan (which until recently involved more pain than pleasure), and I’m freaky fast at word jumbles!
My simple truth is that, for me, “success” comes from helping people uncover and live their truth, which I believe makes the world a better and more peaceful place.